What are the differences between parenting and children's health

Essentially, parenting is a comprehensive parenting behavior covering the entire growth cycle of children from birth to adulthood, while children's health is a subdivision in the parenting goal system that specifically focuses on the normal development of physical and mental functions. The two are related to the relationship between inclusion and being included, behavioral practice, and core goal branches. There is no opposition, but the core focus is completely different.

When many novice parents first get into parenting, they are most likely to confuse the two, and even derive two completely different cognitive tendencies. One group believes that "parenting means raising the baby so that there is no illness or pain." They directly equate children's health with the entirety of parenting. The other group is just the opposite. They believe that "parenting means working hard for grades and development, and health is a child's own attribute and does not need to be taken care of." The priority of children's health is pushed to the bottom. In fact, these two views have obvious deviations.

I followed up on a family intervention case for a 6-year-old boy at a community parenting guidance station a while ago. His parents have been busy with various interest classes since the boy was 4 years old. He has to take logic classes and English classes after school during the week, and go, play art, and play host on weekends. The baby usually complains about being tired, and sometimes breaks down and cries for no reason. Both parents are worried. They just thought it was the child who was lazy and throwing tantrums, even the child couldn't sit still and kept leaning forward, and didn't take it seriously. It wasn't until the school physical examination revealed mild scoliosis, and the psychological evaluation of the child care department also showed a slight tendency to anxiety. Only then did they realize that before, they were all thinking about "winning at the starting line in parenting", completely forgetting the most basic goal of children's health.

To put it bluntly, you can actually use self-driving as an analogy. Parenting is like driving to a distant place with your whole family. You need to plan the route, prepare supplies, respond to emergencies on the road, take care of the feelings of your fellow travelers, and adjust the pace at any time. Children's health is the basic condition of the car. You can't just think about rushing to the finish line quickly, even if the tires are worn out or the engine makes abnormal noises, you can't just stop where you are and never get on the road for fear of something going wrong.

And the two are not completely separated. Children's health status will in turn adjust the specific path of parenting. For example, some children are born with severe allergies, so there is no need to follow other people's parenting templates of "drinking cold milk every day and going outdoor camping twice a week." The choice of diet and outdoor activities must be adjusted according to the child's health. In essence, all parenting actions are ultimately based on ensuring the child's health. Help the child find the growth rhythm that is most suitable for him, and it doesn't matter if he deviates from it.