self healing sentences

Really effective self-healing sentences are never positive energy sentences printed from a unified template on the Internet. There is no fixed sentence pattern and no universal standard. As long as it is a sentence that can catch your current emotions, it is the most effective.

The wind in November made her face hurt. The little girl who came to me for consultation last week was squatting at the door of the unit building crying. Her down jacket hood had slipped down and she didn't bother to pull it off. There were more than 200 collections of high-energy healing quotes in the photo album on her mobile phone. After half an hour of flipping through it, she became more and more annoyed. Things like "You deserve someone better" and "Everything is the best arrangement" were all nonsense that didn't hurt when she stood up and talked in front of her head full of thoughts of "I want him back now". Until she cried until she hiccupped, and mumbled in a daze, "Cry, I'll buy the strawberry mousse that I couldn't bear to buy last time when I've cried enough." After saying this, she suddenly felt that the air that was stuck in her chest was half relieved.

It's interesting to say that when positive psychology became popular a few years ago, the entire circle was promoting positive self-suggestion, asking everyone to look in the mirror and say "I am great", "I can", and "everything will go in a good direction". I myself followed the trend and saved more than a hundred items. I was so busy rushing a project that I only slept for ten hours in three days, and I was so anxious that my hands were shaking even when I drank water. I couldn't read a word. Later, after meeting many clinical consultants, I realized that force-feeding positive chicken soup is essentially denying the current negative emotions. Just like if you have a cold and your nose is not runny, forcing it back will slow down your recovery.

The perspective of narrative therapy is actually more down-to-earth: self-healing sentences are essentially a conversation between you and your own emotions. It doesn’t have to be positive, it can even be a bit complaining or a bit sad, as long as you are not competing with yourself. I have a friend who works in HR. Whenever she gets angry when she is caught between a resigned employee and her boss, she hides in the fire escape and says to the wall, "You are just here to work. You can do as much as you want. There is no need to bear other people's emotions on yourself." She has used this sentence for three years and says it is more effective than any psychology monograph. I was working on an industry report last year. I cried at the computer when I was revising the seventh page. It was completely useless to force myself to say "Come on, you can do it." Finally, I rolled my eyes at the ceiling and said, "The worst case scenario is that I will be scolded, and I won't be fired. I really can't do it. I will take a day off tomorrow to sleep." After finishing speaking, I relaxed within ten minutes, and the speed of revising the manuscript was actually faster.

You don’t have to pursue how nice your sentences are or how literary they are. It doesn’t matter if you speak plainly or even with a bit of dialect. My grandma lived for more than eighty years. Whenever something bothered her, she would slap her thigh and say, "It's no big deal. If the sky falls, a tall person will hold it up." A while ago, I saw a netizen sharing his own healing sentence. Every time he made a mistake, he said to himself, "It doesn't matter, you are not a god, what happened if you made a mistake?" It is a bit rough, but it is more effective than many literate quotes.

Oh, by the way, there is no need to memorize and save it. The moment you really get emotional, the first sentence that comes to your mind that makes you feel relieved is your own healing sentence. After all, in the final analysis, there is no standard answer to self-healing. Don’t be hard on yourself, it’s better than anything else.