Healthy sexual frequency for men

The core answer to this question is very simple: There is never a universal "standard number of times". The only core criterion for judging health is that neither party feels obvious fatigue after the exercise, it does not affect the work and life of the next day, and there are no uncomfortable symptoms such as pain or swelling during the process.

Don't believe it, I have been in the clinical practice of men's medicine for almost 8 years, and I have seen too many people who have been deceived by the so-called "standard line" on the Internet. I just picked up a 27-year-old guy a while ago, and I got married for just six months. I saw a short video saying that "it's normal for a man in his 20s to do it at least four times a week." I tried to make up the numbers, but after half a month, I had frequent urination and painful urination. I came to check that it was acute prostatitis. The pain was so painful that I couldn't sit still. What do you think this is?

In the early years, traditional urology did have a widely circulated "nine-nine frequency formula": multiply the tens digit of age by 9. In the two digits obtained, the tens digit is the number of cycle days and the ones digit is the recommended number of times. For example, if you are 20-29 years old, 2*9=18, that is, 8 times in 10 days. ； 30-39 years old is 3*9=27, which is 7 times in 20 days, and so on. However, this formula is a reference value calculated by European and American scholars in the 1990s based on local samples of young and middle-aged white people. It has great limitations. It does not take into account the physical differences between East Asians and Europeans and Americans, nor does it take into account variables such as daily exercise habits, basic diseases, work pressure, and partner relationships. It is no longer suitable to be used as a hard standard now.

The current view of the sociological school of sex is actually more realistic: compared to the number of times, "the satisfaction of both parties has a higher weight." I have met a couple who have been married for 10 years. They are both college teachers. They are usually busy with projects, only 2-3 times a month, but they arrange the time well in advance every time, and they also take care of each other's feelings during the process. The relationship between the two has always been very good, and all the indicators in the physical examination are normal. On the contrary, many young couples who came for consultation had to cope with the problem in order to make up for the so-called "qualified times". After enough times, neither of them felt comfortable. Instead, they gradually became resistant to the matter, and the gain outweighed the loss.

Let’s talk about a very common situation: Many people usually work overtime on projects, or stay up for more than half a month. Suddenly, they lose interest in it for a month or two, and start to panic, checking everywhere to see if they are “deficient”. It’s really unnecessary. This kind of phased frequency decrease is normal. The human body is not a machine. Even mobile phones need to be charged after being used for a long time. If you stay up late continuously, your testosterone level will naturally drop. Unexpectedly, your body is sending you a signal to rest. Don’t insist on taking various aphrodisiac remedies, which will mess up your endocrine system.

Of course, that doesn’t mean you don’t have to worry about frequency changes at all. If you have been stable before and suddenly have no sexual urges for more than a month without any inducement, or if you have backache or lower abdominal distension that lasts for several days after each session, or even have pain or erectile dysfunction during the process, then it is a sign that you really need to go to the hospital to check your hormones and prostate. Don't do it yourself and don't take health care products blindly.

To be honest, sex life is a private matter between two people, and it is not a matter of clocking in at work to collect KPIs. Some people are tired twice a week at the age of 20, and some people are full of energy three times a week at the age of 50. There is no unified passing line. If you are comfortable, your partner will be comfortable too. It is ten thousand times more reliable than those messy standards on the Internet.